Reply to Take them or leave them - brutally honest description of your spouse

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Take them or leave them - brutally honest description of your spouse"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH:

Pros:   Very handy/mechanical genius
              Loves us all fiercely
              Loyal and dedicated to Wife and kids

cons:     Extremely emotionally immature
                impossible to have a deep relationship with
               The opposite of fun
              Never wants to try anything new/go anywhere/do anything
              Refuses to deal with any problems whatsoever and how dare I bring anything up
             Refuses to deal with emotional issues he has and just gets angry if any are brought up
            Unkind to anyone not "smart" enough" or quick enough to grasp what he is saying.
             Rude and inconsiderate, and gets his "feelings hurt" if asked not to do something that is bothering someone else
            Throws what I call "adult temper tantrums" that are quiet, covert, etc, but they are there nonetheless. It can be months of a silent treatment for example
             Obnoxious

But....he loves us and would do anything for us he could physically do.   Says he has nothing if he doesn't have his family.  But we are all miserable.   Do I stay or leave?    I just feel so conflicted....
[/quote]

This sounds like my former AP on all fronts. I realized my error when he gave his wife the silent treatment for months because she voiced displeasure with something. Even me, the long term AP told him it was immature and quite alarming to see such ridiculous behavior. He went silent on me for a few days for defending her! This is when I realized who he truly was and the affair fog lifted.

I don’t know the ins and outs of your marriage but IMO the silent treatment is narcissistic and emotionally abusive. I personally couldn’t deal with that. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics