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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think before you got married you should have had a serious conversation. In general men just cannot balance these things the way a woman would probably want them to. I know there are some men that are good at it. But if you're a person that's always going to be upset about how they just can't get it right you need to discuss having dedicated help. [/quote]

I think that regardless of how much you discuss a hypothetical situation before marriage and kids, you cannot be truly prepared for what life brings to you. Unfortunately in this country there is an expectation of people doing everything on their own or you have to be very rich to afford help.

Thankfully, I am an immigrant and in our particular immigrant/expat community we have the  tradition of having all kinds of service providers/"side-gig"ers.  Which means that when we had our babies we were able to hire childcare providers, doulas, cooks, cleaners.  Even now, we have caterers and food prep people - who can cater to any scale. We have tailors who can come to your house to take your measurements for alterations, and beauticians who can come to your house for cutting your hair to other beauty treatments. From masseuse to tutors, from cooks to priests.

Finally, I am appreciating more and more the fact that my DH is a big believer in lining up help before we even need it. His motto is "Any problem that can be solved by throwing money at it is not a problem but an expense".  OP, you and your DH need to figure out if your problems are in fact expenses?  Kids are not small forever. Soon they will be out of the house and launched. Isn't it better that you have a team of service providers that help you to make your life easier through these hectic times?[/quote]

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