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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]According to this thread, when a man works 60 hours a week it's to support his family and it is his contribution to the household.  But when a woman works 60 hours a week the extra hours are a hobby, replacing any free time, and show that she's a terrible mother.

OP, as you'll see from the examples on this thread, when couples find it too hard to make it work with 40 hour + 60 hour work weeks, usually the lower earning spouse steps back.  All of the misogynists on this thread are telling you to cut back your hours--have you asked your husband to step back?  He's the lower earning spouse right?  Why can't he go part time?[/quote]

Have you actually READ any of the posts? OP expects her husband do the work of a SAHD but he's not a SAHD and he doesn't want to be. She can't control his behaviors, she can only control her own. So she needs to talk to him about equally splitting responsibilities.[/quote]OP's DH LIED to her so he could use her uterus for his seed.  He promised her repeatedly he'd be the SAHD/primary caregiver TWICE and then dumped her with the burden.[/quote]

He IS the primary caregiver. [b]He drops off and picks up the child, feeds child, bathes child and puts child to bed.[/b]

Everyone makes sacrifices when having a baby.

It is OP’s first child so these things may seem like big tasks but the admin stuff gets easy. And so what if your baby doesn’t do any classes or doesn’t have a passport? It really isn’t that hard to make an appointment to get a passport.

I can understand both sides.[/quote]

On 3 (4?) of 5 days. He then plays video games all weekend. He does none of the housework during his shift — it’s an extra task to cook or throw a load of laundry in.

I’m sorry, no women would be called the primary caretaker under those circumstances.[/quote]

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