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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You know, my husband's family can never understand why some of their kids can't make family events because of prior sports commitments and they give them such a hard time. But my family was like that, and you know what? It paid for my college education IN FULL. So suck it.[/quote]

The time for both the parents and children and money involved in competitive sports is way more than the cost of college, not even factoring in the cost of your relationship with your family. I think most families are accommodating of special events. When you can't make any once a year family event because of a sports commitment year after year it gets to be old.[/quote]

My brother's kid has a full ride to play college v-ball.  He's been complaining for the last 8 years that they've been paying $1000 a month to pay for her to play in the elite club to make the college scholarship a reality.  Let me do that math.  [b]Let's say college is $120k.  $1000x12x8=$96,000.  They are coming out a tiny bit ahead,[/b] in this very rough estimation.[/quote]

Yeah, so let's just have your kids stay at home and play video games all day. That way they won't develop self-confidence, a positive body image, a sense of teamwork and dedication and hard work, exposure to people from different cultures, and a million other things. Yes, my parents spent money on fees and travel, but what I gained from playing sports has served me well my entire life. Especially as a woman, there is nothing greater than the hard earned respect for what your body can do as opposed to what it looks like. [/quote]

Your post is not at all responsive to the post above it.  Did you quote the correct post?  Anyway, you're insulting the celloist and the artist and the creative writer and the chess player and the math club kid.  Do you really believe that playing sports is the only way to get a kid from playing video games all day and the only way to develop self-confidence and a positive body image?  So defensive, I wonder if you're in your 20s.  No one is saying sports don't (or at least can't) impart great things.  Usually they do.  Sometimes they impart really crappy things, like anorexia in a gymnast or cheerleader.  But BTW, missing one game for a wedding doesn't cancel out the benefits of playing years of sports![/quote]

You are the one missing the point. Do you know how much it costs for instrument lessons. What the poster that did a cost benefit analysis did was to say the benefit is only a college scholarship. That poster does not understand the "other" intangible benefits of anything... math club, robotics, creative writing, instruments, etc....

All cost money... lots of money.[/quote]

Actually the PP was responding to the sports minded parent who said all the sacrifice was worth it because the college education was funded. "But my family was like that, and you know what? It paid for my college education IN FULL. So suck it."  I saw it as simply commenting on the cost of sports verses college. While there are some great benefits, you both seem to be missing the fact that there are also problems that arise with such devotion and cost. The more talented child gets all the attention and time of a parent, families lose their savings nest, child develops a perfectionist or elitist attitude, family and friend relationships outside the area of interest diminish. To some, there are more benefits with sports or specializing, but others see it as pluses and minuses.[/quote]

and then somebody said sports are not worth the money spent unless there is a return on the investment. I highlighted the text for you so you can follow along. The next poster said, unless you kids are in no activities, there is a cost. It does not matter if the activity is soccer or robotics. It all costs a lot of money.[/quote]

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