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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You know, my husband's family can never understand why some of their kids can't make family events because of prior sports commitments and they give them such a hard time. But my family was like that, and you know what? It paid for my college education IN FULL. So suck it.[/quote]

The time for both the parents and children and money involved in competitive sports is way more than the cost of college, not even factoring in the cost of your relationship with your family. I think most families are accommodating of special events. When you can't make any once a year family event because of a sports commitment year after year it gets to be old.[/quote]

My brother's kid has a full ride to play college v-ball.  He's been complaining for the last 8 years that they've been paying $1000 a month to pay for her to play in the elite club to make the college scholarship a reality.  Let me do that math.  Let's say college is $120k.  $1000x12x8=$96,000.  They are coming out a tiny bit ahead, in this very rough estimation.[/quote]

Yeah, so let's just have your kids stay at home and play video games all day. That way they won't develop self-confidence, a positive body image, a sense of teamwork and dedication and hard work, exposure to people from different cultures, and a million other things. Yes, my parents spent money on fees and travel, but what I gained from playing sports has served me well my entire life. Especially as a woman, there is nothing greater than the hard earned respect for what your body can do as opposed to what it looks like. [/quote]

So now children who don't go to every game even at age 10 are going to spend their lives playing video games all day? You can develop those things many ways, even with video games and certainly on less competitive sports teams and even on travel teams that allow missing a game for a wedding or funeral. I don't get how there's such a sense of teamwork on the field but no sense of teamwork as a family. Why can't a child experience both?[/quote]

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