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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Baby at 41 means you are 60 when child graduates HS.[/quote]

In DC all the moms in Pre-K are early 40's, every single last one. If you have a baby in your twenties in Washington its like WHAT were YOU thinking ?? What no masters degree , no law partnership….what a loser.

[b]Inside the beltway teh average 60 year old looks like a 35 year old in Iowa, maybe better[/b]. LOL[/quote]

Hardly. But they all tell themselves that and seem to actually believe that other people think they are younger than they are.[/quote]

I'm 48 with a 10 and 6 yo - girl and boy.  I hit the jackpot with both sexes and both kids were one-shot deals. I know of many women much younger than I who are having major issues getting pregnant.

Do I look my age?  sure
I keep my hair short, and I don't color it.  But I exercise regularly, eat well, and weight what I did in college.

Do I regret my decision to "wait?"  no - as both my husband and I can provide for our kids better than most young couples can

I work FT and at this moment, I'm caring for my very young-at-heart mother who is recuperating from surgery.  Until her surgery, she helped out regularly with childcare.  My daughter, who's at the age where she's aware of many more of life's challenges, is learning from this experience.  We don't throw away our elderly folks.  And while my husband and I have invested in long-term care so that we're not a burden to our children, my daughter - who's very familiar with nursing homes at her young age - says she'll never put me in one b/c it's "just too sad."

That may change, of course, and I'll respect any decision she needs to make when my husband and I can no longer care for ourselves properly.  But at least we own the fact that these transitions cannot be stopped - that instead, they must be faced.

An older parent doesn't mean you're a failure.  on the contrary - My kids are smart, well-rounded, and compassionate.

And as an older mother who's NOT insecure, I'm not buying into all that youth crap.  The rest of you will be catching up soon enough, and by the attitudes I see in many posts, methinks YOU'LL be having some major issues fighting the gray and the wrinkles!  So go find yourself some Botox and throw a party, ladies!

I say to myself - Bring on the gray and the wrinkles!  Life's too short to be insecure.[/quote]

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