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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you either need FT childcare or a PT job. You can have a FT job with PT childcare and expect that to work. You are setting all of you up for failure.[/quote]
+1  What I did was give up my career so that our lives would be less stressful.

Despite what some woman's magazine tried to sell you, women cannot have it all. Something's gotta give.

OP's DH probably wouldn't be supportive of OP focusing on her career while he pulled back on his career.  I don't find that most men would be willing to do that. I offered that same deal to my DH, that I'd be the breadwinner, and he could be the sahp for a bit.  That was a no-go for him.  Unlike OP, though, I didn't mind at the time pulling back a bit. I was stressed out myself trying to do it all.  And this with a nanny, but no family around.  It was in part mommy guilt, but also we were all just treading water and constantly fighting.

Even Serena Williams, who probably has a ton of paid help, says women can't have it all.

https://www.businessinsider.com/serena-williams-blunt-retirement-essay-inequity-america-workforce-women-face-2022-8[/quote]

Everyone knows this but how about the men step up to help?[/quote]
how do you force men to do that?  If you could find a way, you could write a book and make billions.

But, this is also why many educated, working women choose to not get married and/or have kids.  They know it's not possible to have it all.  Something's gonna give.[/quote]

Divorce works. Ex did not do one thing while we were married. Miraculously, when we divorced, he figured it out.[/quote]

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