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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Daily for more than a year. And all day?

I don’t know if a one-night stand after he’d been drinking would’ve been worse.

So sorry OP. Did he cut it off with her completely?[/quote]

OP. I wonder which would have been worse too. Yes, he cut things off that day, Nov 7 (blocked her phone number, defriended on FB, etc) and wrote her an e-mail:

"I can’t run with you tomorrow. And I can’t run Friday or this weekend or ever again. I have come to believe that though I may have not broken any physical rules in our late night walks back to your car, those were not honorable to my marriage. Even though those walks stopped sometime ago, and our friendship has strengthened without that underlying tone, my wife and my children deserve 100% focus that our runs detract from.  I don’t want to talk about it, please."

She wrote back, "Read and understood. Have a nice life."[/quote]

Ugh! Something about that response hits a nerve. Almost as if his letter is conveying "what really happened" and she's like, "got it!".[/quote]

"Have a nice life" sounds like she was pretty angry, which means that his message was genuinely a cut-off message. Think about it. If I had a friend who said they could no longer see me, I'd be pretty upset. If I had an emotional AP, I'd be even more upset.

OP, I don't think any of this is great, but I wouldn't walk away from this marriage just yet. If you believe they didn't jump into bed for over a year, then that tells you about a level of respect he has had for you and a level of commitment for your marriage that is honestly higher than typical.

The easiest piece of advice for the Internet to tell you is to walk away. But life is not so black and white. Certainly if he does anything like this again, I'd say game over. But from what you've shared, I think you may have a basically decent guy on your hands.  Good luck to you.[/quote]

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