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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'll be honest since you requested it OP.

I have a low opinion of parents who do not even want to be the primary caregiver for their children when they are infants and toddlers.  I think prioritizing material things and one's own career and self-fulfillment is selfish and indicates a lack of understanding of how important it is for young children to spend most of their time with someone who loves them completely and unconditionally.

A little off of your topic but completely relevant.[/quote]

Your opinion clearly presumes that the parent has a choice not to work. What about the mother who works not because she prioritizes material things but because she needs to earn money to put food on the table and a roof over the kid's head? Is she selfish?

Must be difficult for you to understand the world outside of your bubble.  [/quote]

I'm not talking about parents who have no choice financially.  I'm talking about parents who don't want to be the primary caregiver for their children when they are infants and toddlers.

We did that as a family with very little extra money, prioritizing my children over everything else.  [/quote]

It really just robbed your kids of many experiences.[/quote]

And you robbed your children of one of the most important experiences of their lives, and one which can't be experienced later in life: of being taken care of by someone who loves you completely and totally. They will never experience that in life. Ever. And that is very sad IMO.[/quote]

Maybe? My own mother was like you and now that I’m a mother I find her behavior odd. I could write a novel on her bad parenting, but let’s just say that because if it I want to work and not stay home. She was also against “strangers” raising her children and thought she was so much better than others for prioritizing child rearing over money. [/quote]

I mean, so what. I don't understand how a post about your own mother proves anything. Maybe you're a better person because you weren't raised by strangers who didn't love you and only saw you as a paycheck, despite how little your respect your mother.[/quote]

+1. So many people on DCUM think their (n=1) experience as a child gives them license to tell everyone else presently in a similar situation to the one they grew up in that they are wrong. You hated being a twin so everyone having twins is wrong. You had two siblings so every other child with two siblings will be unhappy. You hated public school so no one should go to public school. Your mom stayed home and you had a bad relationship so all moms who stay home will ruin their children’s lives.

This is so narcissistic. [/quote]

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