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Yeah, you thought outside the box alright.  Yup.

Now, what did your friends say when you told them you were quitting your job because you were married now, a la Charlotte/SATC? I'm genuinely curious.  Did you proudly announce your choice to be this kind of pioneer?[/quote]
You're jumping to conclusions about things.  I didn't quit my job because I got married.  The company I was working for shut down and I decided not to look for another job right away.  I'm not a trophy wife, not outwardly attractive, and I have no family money.  My husband is not a trophy husband (whatever the male term for that is).  He makes $70,000/year.  And we have been reasonably living on that.  We just live simply.  And we are both happy.  We don't have the power imbalance that often happens in arrangements such as ours.

As to what my friends thought about this decision?  When it came up in conversation, I told them, but they didn't take it upon themselves to approve or disapprove.  They have this kooky idea that people should make their own decisions in life to achieve their own goals, not the goals of the feminist community, not the goals of chauvinist men, not the goals of an ethnic group or any other kind of group.  Some of them make life decisions I wouldn't make, decisions I think are very unwise.  But it's their life.  My close group of friends has a huge respect for others, and we don't expect everyone else to be just like us.  We have different kinds of lifestyles, and can see the advantages of all of them.  Are there other people in my life who disapprove?  Most likely, but they're not in charge of me, so they can think whatever they want.

The thing that's foreign to me in reading this thread is the emphasis on what other people think.  Trophy wives appear to have inordinate emphasis on how they appear to others.  But so do women who think I need to work because it will cause men to think certain things about women.  In my opinion, both of these focus too much on others' perceptions of them (and apparently others' perceptions of me).  [/quote]

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