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[quote=Anonymous]I have been both a stay at home wife and a full-time working wife (no kids).  I'm currently working full-time and have been for 1.5 years.  Previously before that, I did the stay at home wife thing a few times, sometimes while job searching for an extended period of time (like 9 months), other times when I was in-between jobs and figuring out a new career path.  I often wondered whether to make the stay at home wife gig my career.

My DH works 80 hour weeks and we don't need my salary.  DH didn't care whether I worked or not.  I don't especially enjoy working, because I find it stressful and don't like working at an office from 9 to 5 and having to stay there until close of business even after all my work was done.  I have a JD and a master's degree (currently using the master's) and with the exception of my current full-time job, I have hated every job I've ever had.  I never felt like I was using my talents in any of my previous jobs, and felt drained and exhausted when coming home.

As a contrast, I enjoyed my times as a stay at home wife for the most part.  I loved being able to spend my time any way I wanted and pursuing a variety of intellectual and personal interests.  I also loved that my to-do list got done every day, whereas now I have to cram in all my chores and errands on the weekends which limits our fun time.  However, stay at home was isolating, since I felt lonely at home a lot.  But I never felt bored at home or like I didn't have enough to do.  There is tons to do at home.  I really don't get why people think it's boring to stay at home.  I'm a lot more bored working full-time!  I don't feel that I'm being especially challenged by my job but I do enjoy the accomplishment of a job well done, however, I felt that way staying at home too, when I completed a household project.

What bothered me the most about staying home was not having my own salary and having to ask DH for money.  I never bought myself any extras because I felt like I didn't deserve it since I didn't have a salary.  The thing that bugs me most about working is having to sit in the office from 9 to 5 even though I get most of my work done in the first two hours.  I could be spending the rest of that time taking care of my personal chores and errands.  I also worry a lot about the office environment in terms of sick building syndrome.

Overall, I think I'm slightly happier working full-time than I was as a stay at home wife, though I think the best of both worlds would be working part-time.  I also think I'm a much more boring person now that I'm working full-time.  I don't have the time or energy to read, I don't have time to pursue my hobbies, and I would love to take a class in something but don't really have the time or energy.  [/quote]

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