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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why not let kids just chillax and be themselves?[/quote]

What does that even mean?

Raising kids doesn't just mean feeding them and watching them grow.  They aren't plants or pets.  They will be adults one day and to have the best chance of being heathy and fulfilled adults you have to help them develop talents, pursue interests (watching youtube and tiktok do not count as interests), a physical activity they can pursue into adulthood, work ethic.  These are all important to in order to have a successful career that makes enough money to get ahead, finding a quality spouse, staying in shape and heathy as an adult, being an interesting person that others want to talk to.  [/quote]

Do you really though? Left to their own devices, they’ll find interests of their own. But it may not be interests you value or on your preferred timeline. Therein lies the issue. You’re still seeing their lives and choices as a reflection of you.

I have a kid who has a little neighborhood side hustle with a friend. They mow lawns, rake, weed, trim hedges, etc. They make a couple hundred a week but he doesn’t even spend the money on anything as we buy his clothes, pay for his tennis lessons, lift tickets, gadgets, etc. He just wants to see the money adding up in his bank account.

Anyway, he’d rather do this than join any of the ~ 60 or so school clubs at his high school. Like newspaper or debate team or something that might look “good” on a college application. Right now he only does tennis in the spring and water polo in the winter. But no academic clubs because he wants to focus on his “business” lol. Are we supposed to say no? At least he’s doing something. It is what it is.[/quote]

It seems a shame that he’s not exploring other interests because he’s already yoked to a job…he has his whole life to live like that.[/quote]

The PP says he CHOOSES to work and that he doesn’t need the money. He’s showing admirable work ethic and ambition. Plus she says he does do activities - tennis, skiing, and water polo. Sounds like a good kid.[/quote]

Where does it say that? How old is this kid? [/quote]

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