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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The projection about OPs wife let’s me know that many feel it’s woman’s work to make ANY sacrifice no matter how pointless. [/quote]

Soooooooooooo much this.  OP's wife is actually the only one in the situation who DOES know what they're facing because of her profession, and she's offered her expertise in the past only to have it ignored.  Now they're ignoring her again, but also, plot twist, she's the villain for knowing it's a terrible plan![/quote]

Her "plan" is to sit back and do nothing.  And, worse, she expects her husband to sit back and do nothing to assist his parents.  She is a terrible human being.[/quote]

No, she's saying that what OP is proposing is unsustainable and cannot be done.  She's right.  If OP and his dad get their way, this will take a huge toll on OP's marriage *and* they will only admit they need more comprehensive care when OP's mom gets seriously hurt or lost.  There's no upside to this plan, only downside.[/quote]

And I bet if OP asked his wife to help them with researching public assistance programs for his mother, she could be very useful.  She could help find resources that will equip OP's dad to care for his mother appropriately.  What OP is proposing is inadequate and unsustainable, and it's only going to require more and more sacrifice.  She's right not to agree to it, because it's not enough and she's smart enough to see that when more and more work is needed, OP is going to be expected to take it on.  [/quote]

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