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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m fine with someone wanting a “no kids” wedding as long as the bride/groom/extended family are cool with this being the reason I don’t attend. I will not volunteer the reason, but would answer honestly if asked and my MIL would definitely ask. But it would be irrational for people to have their feelings hurt over our non-attendance.[/quote]

If you're going to say no to a wedding invite simply because they didn't invite your children (without even considering a way that you could make this work), then I doubt anyone will miss your presence anyway.  I know I wouldn't.[/quote]
If you know that no kids would be a deal breaker for me, why do invite me? If you don't know, again, why do you invite me? Gift grab?[/quote]

Because if you're the kind of person to always so no to a non-child wedding invitation, then you're also the kind of person who would tell everyone that you weren't invited (even though you wouldn't have gone anyway).  So if you had made your no-kid-no-wedding stance clear, they probably invited you because they figured it would be less annoying to listen to you complain that you got invited to a no-kid wedding than to hear you bitch about how you weren't invited at all.  And if they didn't know, then they probably invited you because they thought maybe you'd be willing to consider attending their wedding even if you couldn't bring your kids, like most nice, normal people would. [/quote]

Geez, you sure have a negative attitude towards weddings.  If it's such a huge imposition on you why not just elope?[/quote]

I did elope, actually.  And I don't have a negative attitude towards weddings at all - I'm the kind of person who would try really hard to attend a wedding even if my children weren't invited because I believe in being there for my friends and family.  It's all the "I refuse to go without my children" people that are the ones with the attitudes.[/quote]

Well, for some of us, arranging care is a huge financial and logistical challenge if it’s even possible at all. Not all of us have huge bank accounts or healthy, local grandparents at the ready. But as you so kindly said, you won’t miss me anyway, so I’ll save myself the trouble.[/quote]

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