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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It will just get worse the older your kids get. They'll be sneaking them candy bars and whatnot.  [/quote]

Honestly though isn't this what grand parents and aunts are supposed to do.  Spoil their grand-kids and nieces/nephews...

WTF is wrong with ice cream(frozen milk)   mashed potates(isn't baby food soft)
baby powder (as long as they are putting clouds of powder around the kid)

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I am a grandmother and would never go against my son or DIL's wishes.  But I would internally roll my eyes. I raised five healthy children without any problem.  A little ice cream or mashed potatoes is not going to hurt a four month old. At four months my kids were eating cereal, fruit, eggs, and vegetables. The baby powder might concern me more. I would just ask her to put it on her own hands before putting on the baby.

But again,[b] I do exactly what my son and DIL ask because they are the parents[/b].  [/quote]

PP, you nailed it.  You raised your five kids.  You had your chance to call the shots.  And I bet when you did, you resented people telling you how to parent, and I bet they were internally rolling their eyes.  And so it goes.[/quote]

Honestly, I think that's why I am a pretty good MIL and Grammy and have great relationships with all my adult kids. My mom never interfered. My parents do not offer advice unless we ask. My DH and I follow their example. I'm sure like me, my mother bit her tongue plenty of times.  The point is that the parents get to make the decisions. Period.  When you have raised five kids and have the benefit of hindsight and experience you realize that there are many, many ways to raise a healthy child.  You don't need to make someone else wrong to justify your parenting decisions.  But I think all grandmothers roll their eyes occasionally. [/quote]

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