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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here.

Okay, so Mary had left the house several times to start her life as an adult, but she always found her way back home. For example, she got a degree but realized she couldn't get a great job in that field. Then she went back to school (stayed with Thelma while in school) and moved away for a time because she was planning to marry a man she met a few states away. Then that fell through, Mary went back to school and got a second degree and soon realized that she didn't really like the working world. So she left the home again in order to pursue the career she wanted but it had a better market in another state. She eventually came back home and has been working as a waitress.

Larla is on her 3rd year of college. She lives with her parents as her mother was sick while she was away at school so she transferred to a local college to finish her degree. Since she returned home, her mom's coworker and child had to come live with them as well. Also a cousin of  Larla's dad is staying with them as well until he gets on his feet after immigrating here.

Larla and Mary have talked. The funeral was 5 mos ago. Larla just brought up the possibility of moving to Mary this week. Larla and Mary do not get along very well and they don't really want to live together. Part of it is just difference of opinions and part is due to the age gap (Larla is in her 20s, Mary is 50s).

In the same way that it would be "shitty" for Larla to flat out kick Mary out, wouldn't it be equally as bad for her to instead charge her rent??

Of course the family has gotten wind of the situation and they feel like 1 of 4 things should happen.

1. Both women stay in their current living situations. 
2. Same as 1, but Larla moves into the house once Mary decides to leave again (as she potentially may do). 
3. Larla either deal with living with Mary, or kick her out/buy her out. 
4. Larla sells the house out from under Mary.

No, Thelma was not incapacitated at her death. She drew up the will 5 yrs ago and did not have any medical conditions limiting her capacity. She died at 82 and was able to drive and maintain an active lifestyle (physically and socially) until her death. Thelma has always supported both of her children monetarily when they needed it and she always seems happy to be float Mary for as long as she did. She made sure that Mary got an allowance monthly for living expenses like car, clothing, and social expenses. Mary won't get the allowance anymore but now Thelma has left money to her.

And no this isn't homework, I am purposely being ambiguous with my position in relation to the family members so that I don't get biased advice.
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Do you know the reason Thelma chose a niece who has her own living parents to leave the house to? Are there other nieces and nephews, or is Larla the only one? How many siblings does Mary have?

It is really unusual to skip over one's own children to leave a family home to a more distant family member (the niece in this instance). Did Thelma owe some kind of debt to Larla's parents so that leaving the house to Larla was a way to repay that debt? (Not necessarily a money debt, but a debt of gratitude of some sort, either real or perceived.)

There has to be more to the backstory here as to why Larla was chosen to inherit the house. If the will was written five years ago, Larla was only in her mid teens at the time, so too young to even sell or buy real estate at the time the will was written.

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