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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"I will strongly urge my DD and any future DIL to go back to work."

As a WOH, I think you should leave your daughter and future DIL alone to make their own decisions with their spouses. [/quote]

of course they will make their own decisions, but they don't have the wisdom of experience.  When I was working and told people I was going to stay at home, without exception the women were all like "don't do it" and the men were all "that's great."

I didn't really understand at the time why the women were against it and the men seemed to think it was fine.  The reason the women were against it was b/c they knew how hard it would be to come back from being unemployed.  The men just wanted to be supportive.  They had no idea.  I now have knowledge and experience and I will absolutely make sure my DD and future DIL understand the implications of getting out of the workforce.  As I mentioned, I will do whatever I can to help them.  I didn't have anyone to (a) mentor me, or (b) help me at home (i.e. like grandparents who could come at a moments notice).  I didn't grow up in a family or even a town where moms worked unless they absolutely had to in a low-wage job.  I didn't have the role models or support and it lead me to the position I'm in now where I have very few options.  I do not want my DD or DIL to be in a position of no-options b/c they had lots of confidence they could get another job (which is easy when you HAVE a job) and then find out that the working world is quite hostile to women who opt out (more so in certain industries than others -- teaching and nursing dont' seem to have a problem with SAHMs coming back... other industries do). [b] It is my responsibility to share what I've learned with my DD and future DIL[/b] (should there be a DIL).  [/quote]

If they ASK your opinion, sure.  Otherwise, keep your mouth shut or you will jeopardize your relationship with your DD/DIL.  [/quote]

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