Anonymous wrote:Again with the assumptions. I actually dropped out of college to make my own way.

But anyway- you even being on this thread shows you are either jealous or someone who had no choices. Happy working women are content with their lives and don't come on threads that have NOTHING to do with them and insult others. It's pathetic.

Anonymous wrote:I honestly don't regret it at all. Our family circumstances made it necessary for a parent to be at home and it made logical sense for my DH to work, given the differential in our earning abilities. We've been married over 25 years and are financially secure even though we had no family assistance at all.

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Anonymous wrote:I fundamentally do not think I am capable of "outsourcing" childcare. Even though mentally and logically I understand that working outside the home is probably a good idea, there is some deeper instinct that doesn't allow me to just drop my kids At daycare 40+ hours a week. I couldn't do it. My job opportunities now aren't great, but they weren't that great five years ago, and they certainly aren't dire either. I'll get a job when it makes sense for our family. In the meantime, I'm here for my kids and my husband and the community and our extended families. No job is more important than my kids. Period.

Oh yeah, right, because WOH moms think that their jobs are so much more important than their kids. They are also never "there" for their family (whatever the hell that means)! Go jump in a lake, troll.

NP here. She is giving her point of view for herself--that doesn't make her a troll. Stop projecting.

The first PP is projecting that the working moms feel their job is more important than their kids. That's the trolling part. Obviously most working moms do so because they feel it is better for their family, not because they value career over kids.

No, she is answering the question for her own situation. She said she'll get a job when it makes sense for her family.

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Anonymous wrote:As long as DH keeps paying the bills, who could possiblly regret retiring at 28! And it's even better than normal retirement because it gets better over time as the kids get more independent and art in school.

Now talk to SAHM who's DH left them or ended up with illness or career setback, They might sing a different song.

But honestly, most SAHM never had that great a career anyway, even the lawyers weren't on track to be partners and would have ended up as some GS lawyer or in-house lackey for a career focused GC.

Why are you on this thread? Honestly, why? I was a very high earner. I also have personal wealth that protects me 100%.

-retired at 31

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Anonymous wrote:"I will strongly urge my DD and any future DIL to go back to work."

As a WOH, I think you should leave your daughter and future DIL alone to make their own decisions with their spouses.

of course they will make their own decisions, but they don't have the wisdom of experience. When I was working and told people I was going to stay at home, without exception the women were all like "don't do it" and the men were all "that's great."

I didn't really understand at the time why the women were against it and the men seemed to think it was fine. The reason the women were against it was b/c they knew how hard it would be to come back from being unemployed. The men just wanted to be supportive. They had no idea. I now have knowledge and experience and I will absolutely make sure my DD and future DIL understand the implications of getting out of the workforce. As I mentioned, I will do whatever I can to help them. I didn't have anyone to (a) mentor me, or (b) help me at home (i.e. like grandparents who could come at a moments notice). I didn't grow up in a family or even a town where moms worked unless they absolutely had to in a low-wage job. I didn't have the role models or support and it lead me to the position I'm in now where I have very few options. I do not want my DD or DIL to be in a position of no-options b/c they had lots of confidence they could get another job (which is easy when you HAVE a job) and then find out that the working world is quite hostile to women who opt out (more so in certain industries than others -- teaching and nursing dont' seem to have a problem with SAHMs coming back... other industries do). It is my responsibility to share what I've learned with my DD and future DIL (should there be a DIL).

Anonymous wrote:As long as DH keeps paying the bills, who could possiblly regret retiring at 28! And it's even better than normal retirement because it gets better over time as the kids get more independent and art in school.

Now talk to SAHM who's DH left them or ended up with illness or career setback, They might sing a different song.

But honestly, most SAHM never had that great a career anyway, even the lawyers weren't on track to be partners and would have ended up as some GS lawyer or in-house lackey for a career focused GC.

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Anonymous wrote:I fundamentally do not think I am capable of "outsourcing" childcare. Even though mentally and logically I understand that working outside the home is probably a good idea, there is some deeper instinct that doesn't allow me to just drop my kids At daycare 40+ hours a week. I couldn't do it. My job opportunities now aren't great, but they weren't that great five years ago, and they certainly aren't dire either. I'll get a job when it makes sense for our family. In the meantime, I'm here for my kids and my husband and the community and our extended families. No job is more important than my kids. Period.

Oh yeah, right, because WOH moms think that their jobs are so much more important than their kids. They are also never "there" for their family (whatever the hell that means)! Go jump in a lake, troll.

NP here. She is giving her point of view for herself--that doesn't make her a troll. Stop projecting.

The first PP is projecting that the working moms feel their job is more important than their kids. That's the trolling part. Obviously most working moms do so because they feel it is better for their family, not because they value career over kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I fundamentally do not think I am capable of "outsourcing" childcare. Even though mentally and logically I understand that working outside the home is probably a good idea, there is some deeper instinct that doesn't allow me to just drop my kids At daycare 40+ hours a week. I couldn't do it. My job opportunities now aren't great, but they weren't that great five years ago, and they certainly aren't dire either. I'll get a job when it makes sense for our family. In the meantime, I'm here for my kids and my husband and the community and our extended families. No job is more important than my kids. Period.

Oh yeah, right, because WOH moms think that their jobs are so much more important than their kids. They are also never "there" for their family (whatever the hell that means)! Go jump in a lake, troll.

NP here. She is giving her point of view for herself--that doesn't make her a troll. Stop projecting.

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Anonymous wrote:I fundamentally do not think I am capable of "outsourcing" childcare. Even though mentally and logically I understand that working outside the home is probably a good idea, there is some deeper instinct that doesn't allow me to just drop my kids At daycare 40+ hours a week. I couldn't do it. My job opportunities now aren't great, but they weren't that great five years ago, and they certainly aren't dire either. I'll get a job when it makes sense for our family. In the meantime, I'm here for my kids and my husband and the community and our extended families. No job is more important than my kids. Period.

Oh yeah, right, because WOH moms think that their jobs are so much more important than their kids. They are also never "there" for their family (whatever the hell that means)! Go jump in a lake, troll.