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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is the OP.

I really appreciate everyone's feedback. Even the tough love posters.

I don't think I am rationalizing or blaming the OW. The blame rests squarely with my husband. Was I the perfect wife? No. But he is the one who broke the marriage.

My financial concerns are that he makes the majority of the HHI, and even if I worked FT, my earning power is about $75k max. Our HHI is $170k, and he makes $130k of that. My job is the flexible one, and I have been able to take breaks from working when DD was young, and then set my hours to avoid having to pay for childcare. If we divorce, we will have a lot less money, and DD's lifestyle will suffer. My husband will actually be better off financially with the OW than with me, even if I get the house, child support, and alimoney.

I posted because I wanted to be sure I wasn't leaving any chance of a good life for my daughter on the table, but everyone agrees I should leave, so I guess I will be looking for divorce attorneys this weekend.[/quote]

You really need to run the numbers with an attorney.  You will get half of everything - half equity in house, half of your total combined savings and retirement, etc.)  your attorney will be able to tell you how much child support you get, plus possibly alimony in the short term.  You will probably split the cost of uncovered medical expenses, child care, extra-curricular activities and academic costs proportionally according to income.

Don't make a decision until you look at the numbers.  With one child, you can easily cut your housing expenses.  IME, I would rather live modestly with my dignity intact.  My kids don't care that we lived in an apartment without a lot of bling.  
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