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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] I think that once the intimacy is established sex becomes the most important thing for men, for me anyway. If my wife and I are having regular good sex then my patience, kindness and willingness to please are high;  [b]I don't do it on purpose[/b], I love my wife more than anything but I am far more likely to get up at 5 AM to go to the gas station to fill her tank if we had sex the night before. [/quote]

You actually do it on purpose unless a evil spirit possesses your body.

You can love you wife and purposely hurt her too, you are human. But you lack patience, kindness and willingness to please because you lack self control not because you don't get sex.

Meditation will help you learn to control your mind body connection.[/quote]
Wow talk about an asshole.[/quote]

Hey! That's not cool lol! 
  Allow me to rephrase; I am a good, giving and fair partner  no matter what is going on  but if we are completely synced up  I find myself noticing ways to make her day more than I would normally.  I am not her servant nor is she mine but I don't mind playing the role once in a while if the mood strikes me  
 If that makes me an asshole then so be it but I don't think I'm alone. 
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Just because you are "not alone" does not mean it is okay... look at all the people that support Trump.

I am not the one that said you are an a**hole, I said you are human. It is human to not treat people nice based on your own selfishness, or to bean count or whatever you want to call it... but it is on purpose.

You don't reach out to your wife when she is disconnected... it is all on her to connect with you so you can "instinctively" be nice to her. That is not biological or something... it is on purpose. That is fine, that is your modus operandi, but don't pretend you don't have control over it.

But you could be a "better person" (that is a saying.. I am not judging whether you are good or bad) and fill up her car because you like being a "good person" not because of something she does or does not do. I fill up the car because it makes me feel good... not i fill up the car because I want my wife to think of me as a good person.

You said, "it is not on purpose" .... Not being nice when the sex is down is a choice... it is on purpose. You are not perfect, you are human... you are nicer to your wife when you are getting everything you want. That is a choice. That is all I am saying.

Do lots of people treat their spouse less when they are not getting what they want... you are not alone, but not in good company.[/quote]

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