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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I am a stepmom to a now 22-year-old, and you are dead wrong.  Wrong from the start.

The only thing you are right about is that her dad can't give in because she threatens to go to Mom's.  In this case, he needs to talk with her now and say that he is glad that she had a good time with her friends and that he wants to talk about what happened.  He needs to say he realized he was being unreasonable by not letting her Trick or Treat with her friends at first, and that they need to talk about how to communicate better because there will be other times when he may need to change his mind, but future threats to go back to her mom's will likely backfire.  They can talk about how she can approach him to make her case and say what she feels and needs, so she can be sure he at least hears her.

As for you...you need to BUTT OUT.  As someone who really hurt my marriage by constantly critiquing my DH's parenting of my SD, I can say that you have more power to help your SD by strengthening your marriage than you do by trying to change your DH's parenting.  You will only push them both away from you if you keep this up.

Read Stepmonster.  Focus on your child and your marriage. Let him parent his child.[/quote]

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