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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have high standards, sorry. I'm going with all of them. I wouldn't have married someone who didn't have each of those things.[/quote]

Yes, everyone marries hoping that their spouse stays attractive and fit and that their sex life stays robust through children and ageing etc. the question is for people already married- [b]what matters now. What's happening or what do you prioritize now? [/b]

I'm sure you aren't the only one with high standards. I'm sure you still, like everyone, prioritize those standards.[/quote]

I prioritize all of those things. I have them all now. I wouldn't put up with a man who let himself get fat, had an affair with my neighbor, or didn't help me with household chores and children. And no I wouldn't have married a man with poor earning potential either or someone I didn't get along with in or out of bed.

The one thing I could let go, I guess, is #6. I wouldn't put up with an actual affair or flirtation, as I said, but I can't control his thoughts. I'm sure he does lust after other women. I certain find other men attractive.[/quote]

Oh. Well, yeah, if you'd divorce your husband for gaining weight or losing his job I wouldn't really say you have high standards so much as you must have takes really different vows than I did. [/quote]

I wouldn't divorce immediately but I would tell him to make some changes, and support those efforts, if he was gaining a lot of weight (unhealthy) or unemployed for a long period (depressed). YMMV but I have a fantastic marriage compared to most of the people who miserably post on here about their lack of sex lives or even friendly connection with spouses. Probably because I ask for what I want and then expect to get it.[/quote]

I'm happy that your marriage is fantastic for you. I feel the same, he's my best friend and I'm so attracted to him 12 years into our marriage. I can't imagine having my marriage tied to a number on a string or his income, however. I can't imagine telling my three kids, "oh Daddy gained some weight and Mommy GETS WHAT SHE ASKS FOR so I left him."

To each their own, right? [/quote]

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