Reply to Referrals for Pro Bono Legal

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Referrals for Pro Bono Legal"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Im following this discussion. What if the child is too young to verbalize how much abuse he's seen? What if he hears daddy cuss out mommy, slam doors, hit mommy, threaten her, etc? Surely a 2 year old is not put on the stand? Can't wrap my head around why custody is shared with known abusers. It is not in the child's best intetest. [/quote]

How will it be proven? Abuse is a very common claim in disputed custody cases. While cussing, slamming doors and such is bad parenting,  I don't think it rises to the level of child abuse. If there aren't police and medical reports to back the claim, it won't be proven. Dragging children into court for those things is also bad parenting. There's also a requirement (in Virginia) that it be reported in a reasonable amount of time.

Parental alienation is something that is very damaging to children. Courts know that, which is why fostering a relationship between the other parent and child is a consideration in deciding these cases. No matter how angry one parent is, making sure that child has a chance to bond with both parents is more important.

Being a shitty spouse is not the same thing as being a shitty parent. Theoretically, the spousal abuse would stop when parents are no longer living together. If there's abuse after that, document it. Custody is never, ever about vindication for a parent. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics