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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Man here - interesting to see the theories being spun about.  The pushover gets cheated on.  No wait, its the smotherer, the clinger.  Nope, its the bitch, the cold one.

All wrong.

Anyone read the thread about how often men think about sex?  It's a lot.  It's dominant thought process.  Multiple times a day.  It's about your wife, and other women.  That part, no one can control.  It's biology.

What you can control is where your husband's sexual energy is directed.  If your sex life is stale, or non-existent, it will fixate elsewhere.  This is where most (not all) men and women are different.  There is no "off" switch for male sex drive.  Which is why your DH is pawing at you even though you are exhausted, touched out, the house is a mess, you are sweaty and bloated.  If you become his asexual wife, he will stop seeing you as sexual.

Of course, some women are great, giving lovers and they get cheated on.  Monogamy is hard under the best of circumstances, people mess up.  There are also a small percentage of men that are dirtbags.  Men know who these men are more than women do.  We see them out at conferences, business travel.  They are prowling just as if they were single.  Vows meant nothing to them, literally.

The rest of us, we made a commitment.  We know cheating is wrong, but more than the moral aspect, we know how much we have to lose by cheating.  We don't want to lose our families, which is why, as these threads say, men never leave their wives for their APs.  Its sexually driven.

I promise you, if you sexually neglect your man, the risk of him cheating goes up exponentially.  Which isn't to say you can ever affair-proof your marriage any more than you can accident proof your commute.  But you are deluding yourself if you don't think the number 1 predictor of faithfulness is sexual satisfaction.[/quote]

OP here. Dude, everything you wrote could have been summarized in 1-3 (incorrect) sentences. Their sex life is great and I know because her DH used to turn my stomach by making references to how naughty his good wife could be. Ugh, that reminds me of another reason I don't like him. Imagining that super average bore of a man having sex always irritated DH and I. Has it really not occurred to you that good sex isn't enough?

Okay, back to reading the thread.[/quote]

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