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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Parallel parenting is all well and good if the kids are ok with it, but some kids need more.  And if a real problem develops, you will need to co-parent effectively.

PS, OP, how do you feel about your STBXH having a new wife and having no say in how she and DH raise your kids?[/quote]

This post makes no sense. Kids need more of what, exactly?

I hope not more of watching two parents miserably married to each other.

OP and her ex aren't going to run off and get married next year to some evil people who will not let the true parents have any say in how the kids are raised. That rarely happens, if ever, around here. In fact, that rarely happens anywhere anymore.

So what's your real point?

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Some kids need more cooperative parenting.  Like if a kid has a serious illness or behavior problem, parallel parenting may not be enough.

Isn't this board full of 2nd wives complaining about ex wives, first wives complaining about second wives, parents unable to agree on parenting?  Check out Special Concerns, there's plenty there too.[/quote]

My children don't have behavioral issues, so I can't really relate to this. I'm guessing OP doesn't have this problem either.

In the case of a serious physical illness, my family and I would jump in and take charge. My ex-husband would support us in every way.

I know dozens of divorced families and blended families who are doing amazingly well. It all depends on whether or not it's a somewhat amicable divorce, and if addiction, violence, mental illness, or other serious issues are present. Without these serious issues, divorces can be really easy, especially if the family is financially secure. I'm envious. My ex had these serious issues, and my divorce was hideous, and I had no choice but to end my marriage. But my kids and I are doing amazing after several years. It was all worth it in the end.

OP, talk to a therapist and reach out to others who have divorced - and to women who have stayed in bad marriages and somehow feel that it was worth it in the end.

As for you PP, I think it's a little early for OP to be worrying about second wives, and you seem to be grasping at straws and projecting, obviously with some sort of personal agenda. I know for a fact that my ex will never remarry.

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