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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Put more simply, people who gain a bunch of weight just don't care. They don't care about a lot of stuff and it would be hard to be a person who cares married to one who doesn't. [/quote]

Maybe they care more about their mental/emotional health and spend their free time at the therapist and not the gym.

Maybe they care more about an elderly parent and are too exhausted to work out.

Maybe they care more about their job that requires a heavy amount of travel, and the meals out and irregular sleep are catching up to them.

Maybe they care more about making things comfortable and secure for the people they love, and don't invest time in themselves.

I get that being thin is important to you.  Good for you, and no one is begrudging that time and energy that you spend solely on yourself.  But others have different priorities.  Their priorities aren't wrong, just like yours aren't wrong.  They are just different.[/quote]

This has nothing to do with me. You have no idea what I weigh or how often I work out. I was simply responding to OP's question which was why spouses don't like when another gains a lot of weight. That is why. I do not care why people are fat. It's not my problem, I'm not concerned with it. OP wants to know why SPOUSES care when SPOUSES get fat.[/quote]

No, what you said was "people who gain a bunch of weight just don't care...about a lot of things." Some examples you gave of the things people who gain weight supposedly don't care about are being an involved parent, a contributing partner, and a successful employee. Those are some pretty insidious stereotypes about overweight people you're spouting there. Many of us care deeply about our children, our partners, and our careers and have very fulfilling lives despite perhaps caring less than you about being physically attractive. If what you meant to say was that people who gain a lot of weight don't care about staying attractive to their spouses, not that they don't care about [i]anything in life[/i], then you expressed yourself poorly. And if, as you say, you don't care why people are fat, I wonder why you bother posting with ignorant speculation on the subject.[/quote]

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