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[quote=Anonymous]NP I find it very disheartening that people don't get that while no one ever deserves to be treated badly that there are actually strategies to command respect. If someone is treating you badly for years, you are complicit at some point and need to learn these strategies. The culture of victimhood and indignation is not helpful to anyone. When you embody this it feels in the short term like you are taking control back, but it's actually weak and self-destructive (and destructive of others as well). Lastly, the whole "I didn't want to model that to my kids" excuse is nauseating and I'm so tired of reading about it here. Model figuring it out to your kids. And no, you actually CAN save a marriage even if one spouse refuses to participate. You can do things to make them WANT to work on it. Most people just prefer indignation, it's a cheap thrill frankly. [/quote]
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