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I don't understand how I seem like the crazy one?![/quote]

Because adults don't behave the way you do.[/quote]

I was going to say that it isn't crazy, just different and then I thought of a relative by marriage that is very close to her family.  So close that she is at her mother's house all the time with the spouse and baby.  So close that she has alienated her husband's family because she doesn't trust anyone with her child other than her own family (I'm not kidding).  The marriage appears to have three people, the husband, her mom, and her.  There are also major control issues at work.  So having seen this extreme I can see how it seems like you are on that road.  For one, attending family events is not mandatory.  My DH always preface family events by ASKING if we have anything planned on the calendar, that xyz event is coming up.  Sometimes he goes by himself, sometimes we both go, sometimes we have a schedule conflict.  Because we both give each other consideration year round, when there is something special, I really want to go for him.

The approach shouldn't be because you now are coming home by the time he gets home from work, he should go to every family event on the weekend, it should have been working with him to find out what times work for both of you.  I'm not saying you don't drop in on your mom or see your nephew but if it was going to impact your time together and schedule, you could say, hey I want to check in on my mom this week, does Wednesday this week work, and you will be on your own for dinner that night?  This is assuming you think he will be your family and vice versa someday.  [/quote]

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