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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]People on this thread are nuts. I have a great, stable, loving relationship with my fiancé and I also would pause when thinking about telling him. I'm not jealous of his ex but I certainly don't want her sending him flowers, even though I trust him completely and have never, ever suspected he would ever cheat. Geez people, OP doesn't need therapy because she doesn't want to upset or create unnecessary drama[/b].

Anyway OP, I have an ex who occasionally will text me or send me a picture out of the blue. We have been broken up for years. I ignore every single text--zero response whatsoever--yet he still occasionally does this. So I can relate. Ignoring is the best way to go. I used to respond and he would always misconstrue things.

I wouldn't tell your husband if you don't want to. You're not hiding anything bad, I understand that you just don't want to create any drama. Treat it like a text. Get rid of them and forget it even happened. [/quote]

There is a  problem if  telling him would create drama.

OP  is dreading dealing with the fall out that's  an issue. No healthy and emotionally stable adult would react in anyway to an ex sending unwanted flowers with  jealousy or drama, or anything that  resembles a fall out.

There is a problem when a person in a relationship avoids telling their partner things to prevent drama or fall out that points to emotional abuse.

Emotional abusers can be very nice and charming until their not.  You get used to avoiding telling them things and walking on eggshells so it becomes normal to you and you soothe yourself with " He's so sweet  every other time."

This kind of thing intensifies over time.

IF you think this is normal you should reconsider marrying your fiance and just like OP should, you should consider therapy.[/quote]

You're out of your mind. Seriously delusional. Not wanting a weird conversation is not emotional abuse, FFS. Get a grip![/quote]

NP here.

Just responding to say that you are not alone in thinking that people (or perhaps one person) are overreacting to not wanting to mention something like this to your husband. Not really wanting to get into awkward conversation doesn't mean that you are abused or your husband is a monster.

There are clearly many lonely, dramatic nutters on here. [/quote]

Yeah it appears OP's husband is the dramatic nutter. Again, she didn't say awkward. She said he would freak out and cause drama. [/quote]

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