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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  I have used my words.  He's just uncomfortable seeing me sad.  I am usually the strong, calm one in the relationship.  Mid-hug he'll come up with some "solution" or fun thing coming up in the future.  He just wants me to snap back into happy and is upset that I am not.

I'll just swallow my emotion and be back to happy wife by the time he gets home tonight.  I just wish for once he could be the strong one that I could cry on.[/quote]

OP, you just have to risk it and cry on him even if you think it is going to make him uncomfortable. It is so so hard, I know. You don't want to make him uncomfortable, he wants to FIX things because he loves you. But you have to take that leap of faith and believe that he is there for you to cry on, that he CAN handle it, that is IS mature enough to just give you a hug and empathize with you (but, as all the PPs have said, you have to tell him that). If he tries to fix things, interrupt him and say no thank you, just a hug, please, just give me 10 minutes to cry on you. He will be uncomfortable. He won't know what to do. He'll think he has to do something. That's OK. His discomfort is his thing. But since he loves you, he'll try.

Do NOT just swallow your emotion. It does not work. It will never work.[/quote]

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