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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Right. Because the rest of us raise our sons to be the guy girls don't trust.  [/quote]

No, because a lot of you don't focus on how your sons treat other people.  Lots of boys are raised to be a-holes.  Aggression, getting/taking what you want, looking out for yourself (often to the exclusion of others) are seen as traits that help men get ahead in this culture.  Girls are still often raised to be observant, considerate, kind, and helpful/supportive.   Boys -- not so much.  Family dynamics (spousal, sibling) also model these roles and relationships.  So what you're saying and what you're teaching can be two different things.  And if you're not saying anything, then the default messages (school, media) aren't great.  So, yeah, it takes a conscious effort to produce decent guys and PP's post was applauding a parent for having made that effort.  My take is that, to the extent that you bristle at such a compliment (rather than feel similarly appreciated), it's because you haven't addressed these issues head-on.  [/quote]

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