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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yeah, see in my house, taking a load off her doesn't fix anything. She'll just pick up new activities to make her exhausted. At the moment, it's marathon training.

End result is, I end up doing more and more of the necessary stuff, while she ends up doing more and more discretionary stuff that exhausts her and still doesn't result in sex. [/quote]

This was me (I'm the wife), so I found an affair partner.  Now my exH can spend his time doing whatever he wants and I can spend my energy on sex. Win win.[/quote]

Likewise; husband here.  I easily do well over half of the housework and chores at this stage -- there's no correlation between the two.  Repeated initiations -- not just at sex, but cuddling, snuggling, PDA, etc -- over multiple months yielded multiple rejections.   After sitting down and having a long discussion, it comes out that she's just not interested in having sex -- with anyone -- anymore.  She spelled out her rationalization, which will stay between the two of us.  I sympathize and feel sorry for her, but I'm basically looking at a sexless marriage for a long, long time -- we've got a young daughter who I want to be around, and the idea of divorce and split custody is heartbreaking.  [/quote]

It isn't sex. it is sex with you. I say this as a wife. Women are not meant to be monogamous.

Did she give you a hall pass??
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Chances are that we have a monogamy bell curve with people who are promiscuous at one end, polyamorous along one end of the rise, begrudingly or reluctantly monogamous folks in the middle, and demisexuals on the other end of the rise, with happy monogamists at the other far end.[/quote]

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