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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yeah, see in my house, taking a load off her doesn't fix anything. She'll just pick up new activities to make her exhausted. At the moment, it's marathon training.

End result is, I end up doing more and more of the necessary stuff, while she ends up doing more and more discretionary stuff that exhausts her and still doesn't result in sex. [/quote]

This was me (I'm the wife), so I found an affair partner.  Now my exH can spend his time doing whatever he wants and I can spend my energy on sex. Win win.[/quote]

Likewise; husband here.  I easily do well over half of the housework and chores at this stage -- there's no correlation between the two.  Repeated initiations -- not just at sex, but cuddling, snuggling, PDA, etc -- over multiple months yielded multiple rejections.   After sitting down and having a long discussion, it comes out that she's just not interested in having sex -- with anyone -- anymore.  She spelled out her rationalization, which will stay between the two of us.  I sympathize and feel sorry for her, but I'm basically looking at a sexless marriage for a long, long time -- we've got a young daughter who I want to be around, and the idea of divorce and split custody is heartbreaking.  [/quote]

It isn't sex. it is sex with you. I say this as a wife. Women are not meant to be monogamous.

Did she give you a hall pass??
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In her case, it is the act of sex in general.  It's tied up in other issues that have gotten progressively worse, which to my discredit, I had not picked up on until our discussion -- things that I think she certainly needs outside help with.  However, to some extent, it doesn't matter if it's "sex" in general, or "sex with me" -- the end result is the same from my perspective -- no shared physical closeness -- and I've told her that, too.

No hall pass was given.  Scheduled sex was discussed, but the underlying causes are such that there's now bit of block for me as well -- like I said, I truly sympathize and feel sorry for her.[/quote]

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