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[quote=Anonymous]Nobody can tell you how your ex will react.  It depends on the person and the context.  But if you haven't been dating long, or haven't been separated long, then this is a bad idea and it will probably go badly with the ex and kids both.

Long means different things to your kids than it does to you.  It takes years to process a divorce.  It's a major life upheaval.  A new partner compounds the initial trauma and complicates their coping.  Your children need you, not some other person.  And they really don't nend to share their already-reduced parent time with anyone else.  Make the introduction when it is the right thing for the kids.  Not just because you want to.  It's not about you.  I would not do this until at least a year of dating AND a year after separating your household.  Ideally two years.  And definitely not until you are in a permanent housing situation with a well established custody routine and the kids are coping well.  there are no shortcuts here.  If you screw this up or put yourself over the kids, you will pay the price in the long run
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