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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can he get involved with an online gaming group? What games is he into?[/quote]

That is not a good idea...he will become even more withdrawn.

Middle school years some of the worst.  My DS had just a few friends which he managed to maintain, but he never got invited to parties and other events.  That was the year of all the bar mitzvahs (we live in a very highly Jewish populated area), and he only got invited to 2, while many friends attended 6 or more.  It is painful to watch, but high school will be better.

In the meantime, maybe your son could invite some boys over to play some video games.  Get him the hottest new game that other boys may not have yet, and he can tell him he has it and invite them over.  Feed them lots of junk food and soda.[/quote]

No he won't gaming groups get very social with one another.  What will make him withdrawn is gaming on his own.[/quote]

So you would be okay with your already shy and withdrawn son sitting in front of a TV and "socializing" with perfect strangers, but having absolutely no face to face interaction.  I hope you don't have a child PP.[/quote]

That is not what online gaming is.

The kids game in groups, usually four to a team, against other teams. They skype while gaming, and there is a lot of talking, laughing and joking.

The kids my kid games with come from several different schools in this area, plus friends and friends of friends who moved out of state, various out of state cousins, and siblings.

Online gaming is suprisingly very interactive and social. The kids talk and interact quite a bit, just as much as my other boys who are out shooting hoops with friends.

Also, having a friend or friends over to game won't work the way you think it will.

Almost all of the games teens play niw are single player games where you game online wirh teams. If OP is buyint the latest cool game, he woukd not be able to play with friends in person. Only online.

Since you don't know how gaming is involved, it is probably best you don't hurl insults about something you know nothing about.[/quote]

PP, this is very informative.  I never understood the online gaming culture until you explained it.  My 13 year old son plays and it is just as you describe.  There are some school friends, old friends from "back in the day", long distance gamers, camp buddies, cousins, etc. who are online.  They are playing in teams and talking trash (harmless) the whole time.  My son would play all day if he could and I have to make him take breaks to do work and eat.  He's at sleepaway camp this week, thankfully.  I have invited some of his gaming friends over when he gets back so they can socialize in person.  We have a pool, so they can swim and go out to play basketball, anything other than gaming.  But, I recognize this is the life of a 13 year old boy.  It is their social outlet.  My son does like sports and plays in a lacrosse club.  All kids need exercise.  If I were you, OP, I would try sleep away camp or day camp.  My DS is also at a small private and we will apply to a larger high school for him.  Small privates and schools can be socially limiting.[/quote]

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