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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm realizing more and more how clueless people are about basic etiquette.  I used to think my mom was too hung up on the "rules", but now I appreciate knowing how to properly host things.  I was just talking to BIL's fiancee last night about her potluck wedding shower.  Her friend is "hosting", her mother is cooking most of the food, and she has asked MIL to bring food as well.  Part of her ignorance about etiquette is cultural, but the same can't be said for most people who just don't have a clue.

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Who defines etiquette though?  I know it's great to be polite but really, it's 2010 not 1940.  Sometimes etiquette is as outdated as some of the religious BS of the Catholic Church.  Sit, stand, kneel, sit, stand, kneel...  Like the blind leading the blind.  It's so regional, cultural, and changeable.  You etiquette ladies smitten can be classy and far from tacky w/out judging others or following your outdated etiquette books.  Sheesh.[/quote]

According to Emily Post:  [i]"The definition of etiquette -- a code of behavior based on thoughtfulness -- has not changed since Emily's day. The etiquette guidelines we use to smooth the way change all the time. "[/i]

And:  [i]When asked "What is the definition of etiquette?", Naomi Polson, who received her etiquette certificate in Washington DC and is the Founding Director of The Etiquette Company, replies, "Etiquette has to do with good manners. It's not so much our own good manners, but making other people feel comfortable by the way we behave. So it's more or less thinking of others and how others perceive us: So that everyone knows the rules for doing things and everyone is in a very comfortable position in society." [/i]

Etiquette and manners are useful because they grease the wheels of human interaction, and make people comfortable engaging with other people in social situations.

RE asking for money at showers & weddings:  It is not thoughtful to ask people for money at a celebratory social event.  Such a request suggests that the hosts are not thinking of others; they are thinking of themselves.  Such a request does not make invited guests feel comfortable.

That's why it is bad manners.[/quote]

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