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[quote=Anonymous]I can't tell you how you should feel, but I can tell you I am in my 40s with no kids, and it's really just fine.

My husband and I don't have that glossy magazine type life where we're jetting off to Paris every other week. (I feel like that's what you hear in every essay about being childfree by choice.)

But we do have a lot of freedoms that people with kids don't have. A big one is that we don't have to save for college, or worry about uprooting kids' stable lives by moving, or any number of things like that. It's given us a lot of career flexibility and geographic flexibility we wouldn't otherwise have had. And we also have a lot of free time - for some people, that might not sound important, but for both of us we really value it.

What do we miss out on? Plenty, I'm sure. My husband actively dislikes children, so I'm sure he doesn't miss any of these things. I like kids (I don't work with them, so easy for me to say) - I think they're fun, I think it's fun to show them things, etc etc.

I think a lot of people our age are busy with kids, so you might find that some of your social life gets more complicated as you get older. But you find people - sometimes they are older or younger, and there's a growing cohort of 30s and 40s types with no kids around, too.

In short: Don't get caught up in that fear of missing out syndrome, though. I'd say trust your own gut, and perhaps trust that you are one of the lucky people who will probably be happy with a kid or two and just as happy without. You have options. [/quote]

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