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[quote=Anonymous]I think life is too short for the elaborate pretenses other posters are advising. I, too, have a very toxic, nasty mother. In fact, both of my parents are miserable, unhappy people who pit their children against each other. What I would do is have ONE frank conversation with your mother and then move straight to consequences.

I would say "Mom, you can pretend you don't know what I am talking about, but the e-mails you are sending me about so and so's life are nasty and passive aggressive. You are going to stop sending me them starting today or else you will find yourself quickly cut out of my life." And then whatever she says in response, your answer is "I have told you where I stand and how you answer is your business, but if you want to remain part of my life, you need to take me seriously."

If you play along with your mother's foolishness, sending her canned responses or fake e-mails about your own life, you will just churn with resentment and she will see through you. How many years can you keep that up while she deposits her misery into your life? You have to step out of the dynamic entirely for your own peace of mind.[/quote]

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