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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I guess I'm a weird parent.  I've told my DD to NEVER go with someone willingly, even if they have a weapon, esp if she is someplace where there is a crowd.  She is to fight,scream, run and cause attention.  The thought of someone taking her, then torture,rape, etc etc is too much, and I want her body found.  The potential emotional, psychological scars is too great.  Also, I've ensured Mom, House is no where listed in her phone contacts and she deletes all my text messages. I've told her that even if someone tells her I would be hurt she is to NEVER NEVER go.  I do hope the teen will be fine eventually.[/quote]

This sounds  like victim blaming to me.

This has  zero to do with parenting. Zero.  You have no idea what that boy was taught, and frankly it doesn't  matter. Nobody knows what they will do when they are attacked and think they are to be killed. He did what he needed to do to survive.
For the rest of his life he's going to second guess himself thanks to people like you who somehow believe  rape is the victims fault and he should have fought harder.

Where is your compassion and empathy?  We're talking about a child who was hurt very badly, whose own mother is probably doing everything she can not to fall apart right now and  you choose to post about how you are an awesome parent and imply that she isn't because her child was assaulted.
Shame on you!
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+1 - well said[/quote]

Agree. Every thread on this site about instances of assault on children has posts from parents describing how their children wouldn't be a victim of something like this.  In reality, when faced with such a terrifying situation, people freeze.  They forget everything they know.  They become the deer in the headlights.

Why do you think militaries around the world put their soldiers through so many life fire exercises and simulations of war scenarios before sending them in the field?  To help them overcome that initial terror response, to get them to the point where they can do what they need to do despite their natural desire to do the opposite.  That kind of training takes years and years and still fails.  You telling your daughter to scream like hell, while well intentioned, doesn't mean anything in the cold harsh reality of the real world.[/quote]

The other sad thing about PP and those who think like her is they are unintentionally planting the seed of  " it's my fault this happened I didn't fight hard enough"  or " I'm damaged and broken  and my mom would be ashamed of me." if God forbid something were to happen.

Yes teach your kids about safety, but that conversation in anyway should not imply that it's there fault if something does happens or that they are too damaged if something happens.

Also I hope pps have the good sense not to say this  to someone who was assaulted or whose child was assaulted.

After the fact it's all about supporting the victim and letting him/ her  know that they are loved and whatever they did in the moment was the right choice for them at the time.[/quote]

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