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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Isn't this the risk guys assume when they marry much younger women?  Wow op, you don't even want your dad but you expect her to keep him?!?[/quote]

Op again. Really not fair since you don't know the full extent of my relationship with my father and I don't owe any of you the full details. It doesn't matter at this point whether I would or would not move him into my house b/c he doesn't want to live with me -- he wants to stay with her (he told me that today).  However, right now I am getting two different stories from them -- she says he can't stay at home in his current state and he says he can. The truth is probably somewhere in between. He doesn't think he needs assistance at home. She wants him to have help so she doesn't have to worry all the time (I assume). They need to reconcile that and that is between them. And I assume that must be a sticking point financially -- he isn't going to spend the money for home care until he is in dire straits (wanting to preserve his assets for when he really needs them) and she wants him to spend the money b/c she needs the help. So maybe she needs to chip in for the home care now or his social security check goes to that instead of to the other expenses it was covering. I guess I just need to get clarity on what happens for years 3, 4 and 5 and start figuring out a plan with my siblings on what we each can contribute.[/quote]

OP, if he gets on medicaid, he keeps $77 of his social security check.  So, basically you'd need to buy more clothing and other basics. Most everything else is included.  If he doesn't get on medicaid, you have a big problem (or stepmom does).  I hope she realizes she loses the social security check for him on medicaid.[/quote]

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