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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] I am quite close friends with a number of attractive men.  At moments, I am attracted to them, but I don't see why that would stop us from being friends.  I think it's a good thing that human beings can find each other attractive, including sexually attractive, and appreciate each other in that way, without acting on it.  My is a friendship only real if it is holy lacking any sexual tension?   Not to stereotype too much,  but that feels like a very American approach. Why would it be hard for men and women to appreciate each other as sexually attractive beings  while feeling affection, trust and loyalty toward each other?   I don't feel any desire to commit to an exclusive sexual relationship with all of my attractive, male friends. I make that choice with one person, my husband.  That doesn't mean I am blind, nor should I be.  That doesn't invalidate actual friendship.[/quote]

I said this on the first page, and the response was that if a man wants a friend, he should talk to another man or get a dog.

I think that it's an all-or-nothing approach that is taken by people who have a history of behaving inappropriately and lying about it. I think it's possible to have friendships where there is a little bit of sexual tension, provided that no one ever acts on the tension and that experiencing the tension is not the reason the friendship continues. I like my male friends for a lot of reasons. It's not the attraction - it's what you do with the attraction that defines how problematic it is.

But then again, I'm not an alcoholic and have no problem not drinking, or ordering 1 drink and leaving half of it on the table. People who are not able to regulate their drinking do not understand this and prefer to abstain all together.[/quote]

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