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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't bother with mediation, go straight to court.  It will save you time, energy and money in the long run. [/quote]

I so agree with this advice. If your soon to be X is anything like mine, it was all about what he wanted and everything that wasn't what he wanted was litigated. Our first agreement was a waste of money (used an attorney who focuses on mediated agreements) and simply set me back those funds. Also, you can expect to be demonized. In one motion, he alleged I was an alcoholic. Etc. Ignore these irrelevant items and focus on what you want, don't get sidetracked or confused. Maybe make a list of goals right now, before it gets nasty (e.g. "50% of the marital retirement pool, retain my mother's inheritance, and 50% of the home value") that you can return to as the situation unravels.

One other thing to think about: my X was very comfortable getting nasty with other people. He'd cc: friends, family, etc. on accusations about me. If you are going to feel vulnerable on this point, you may want to "get out in front of the story" and not let him get to tell the tale. If you don't care, (more where I am), then ignore and focus on your goals.[/quote]

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