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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My therapist (IC) wanted to bring my DW in a couple of times and she did, but it made her intensely uncomfortable.  She is fine with counseling when I do it, but if the focus ever shifts to her, she's unwilling to face it.  The same thing happened with a brief period of MC we did after a difficult period we were going through.  As long as the focus was on how fucked up I am, she's good.  When the counselor wanted to talk about her, she got really upset and we stopped seeing him soon after.

Naturally, this has reinforced my belief that she has stuff she is hiding from me for one reason or another.[/quote]

This is very common among women.  They can't own their deficiencies . One of the reasons they are horrible leaders.  When you come to realize this as a spouse, you feel horribly alone and nauseated .[/quote]

Well, I will say to you that for the past year I, DW, have made a point of taking blame/responsibility for every last thing that does or may happen and being ultra flexible - and DH is silly happy.
Men can be so defensive they just can't take much that doesn't go their way.
I just decided it wasn't worth the disagreements anymore. You want to do it  if this way? Sure...
About huge life decisions I guess we'd still chat, but everything else  -eh, whatever.[/quote]

So pp you spin it that your husband is defensive-no all men are-not that you are critical and argumentative.  All it took for your husband to be happy was for you to stop being a bitch.  You don't want to admit you were a bitch and that when you finally stopped your marriage greatly improved.  This is a pretty typical approach women take to marital therapy.[/quote]

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