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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We've tried it before and found that our needs get tromped on by controlling MIL and inconsiderate SIL despite us having little kids and -- I would argue -- more right to guide schedules and such.

Maybe if I had unlimited vacation time, if they were paying, if I had other truly relaxing vacations lined up -- maybe I would do it for the sake of my kids and their relationships with these people. But otherwise, probably not.[/quote]

Given your entitled  attitude that you are more important bc you have kids, I can see why you don't get along.[/quote]

I get what pp means. She's not more important because she has kids and sil doesn't, but I'm guessing that sil has no clue what it's like to have kids on a vacation. We have vacationed with in laws in the past and they're self centered. "Let's have dinner at 8:30" for example. my kids go to bed At 8, I don't mind keeping them up later on vacation, but not starting until 8 will spell poor behavior on their part that night and the next day because they don't sleep in. So then they're miserable and Dh and I are miserable for having to manage the meltdowns, and then the in laws are judgmental that the kids are out of control. All because sil wants dinner at 8p instead of 6:30. Why can't 1 person be flexible so that 4 people could have a better vacation?  Before I had kids I did travel with a friend with kids and I was accommodating to them and the mom (my college friend) was extremely grateful. It's not a single no kids thing perse, it's someone who doesn't get that kids need a certain schedule. So if sil isn't hungry at 6:30 is it that hard for her to come along and order a soup and then have something to go later? No, but some people dig their heels in and don't see that their comforts don't trump the rest of the worlds.[/quote]

PP. Thank you. This is exactly what I meant. It's pretty standard practice in my friend group to make some concessions to those with the youngest/neediest child. I gladly do this too when that person is not me, too. [/quote]

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