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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP but yes, I think people would say that to a man who works 12+ hours a day and doesn't see his family much at all.  I absolutely would.

OP, if he didn't even leave a bit of dinner for you I am certain there is strong resentment on his part.  You are telling your side of the story but he has one, too.  My guess is you haven't appreciated all the intensely difficult work of those early years of parenting.  And your youngest is 4?  Those days weren't long ago.  I'm sure he is totally exhausted and feels unappreciated.

I agree he should do more now that the kids are in school but maybe he gets a few months of your graciousness while he tries to replenish.  Then, maybe you can calmly discuss a new role with him.[/quote]

"A few months to replenish"? He's been staying home for EIGHT YEARS. He should have been doing this stuff the whole time, but now he should get time to replenish, during which time OP will continue to do these things?

I work 50 hours a week. My husband works 60 hours a week. I do the grocery shopping. He does the laundry. If one of us is having a particularly long day or week, the other one picks up the slack. Neither one of us would ever pull the dinner crap that the OP's husband pulled. If DH and the kids ate all the dinner before I got home for whatever reason, he would make something for me (even if it was just a grilled cheese sandwich) as soon as I got home. [/quote]

I am the pp who said that you should just hire a housekeeper.  I have been in your position and the OP's position, and working 50-60 hours a week is not the same as working 80+ and really going full throttle in your career.  It is a different family dynamic.  And no, it hasn't been eight years since they had little kids.  And in fact, I would argue that a four year old and a seven year old still require a lot of hands on attention.  [/quote]

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