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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP back again...

[quote=Anonymous]Maybe you guys need to just take the pressure off right now and have affection and intimacy but not  worry about intercourse.

I recommend you slowly try to be more physically affectionate in ways don't necessarily lead to sex. Kiss her randomly in the kitchen. Touch her arm or back more when you guys are talking. Cuddle her on the couch and put your arm around her but don't try to advance it.[/quote]

So, this is exactly the strategy I've been pursuing.  In fact, I've shifted my shows of affection to be exclusively those that she says she likes, and pretty much don't do the things I personally always preferred to do (the ways I've enjoyed touching a partner).  That "no sex but cuddle/affection" is pretty much exactly where we are now, that has resulted in the situation.  It's not working.[/quote]

My wife got upset when I turned down duty sex.  I think it was her way of feeling like she was trying to be a good wife (and she was worried I would cheat if I wasn't satisfied at home).  Can you bring yourself to have duty sex for both of your needs?  Use it or lose it?  Don't try to make it about her, just have a quickie - she will feel better, you will feel better and you can build a foundation for later.[/quote]

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