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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You sound exhausted and exhausting. Maybe your life and your mother's life are too intertwined. You are too old to be concerned that your mother won't talk to you. Live your life and let her live hers. Just don't put so much thought into what she is doing or expecting. If she ever comes around then set limits. Tell her she can only call on Sunday or something similar. Why are you in a condo with your parents? Why are you watching tv? Make contact rare and 
meaningful and you both will have a better time.[/quote]

We were on vacation at the beach and have vacationed with them for many years (sometimes the ILs and my grandfather have joined us, too), hence the condo.  I wasn't watching TV, my mother was in the condo's common area.  I happened to come in from being out and saw what she was watching.[/quote]
OP I have had similar ups and downs and I would never cram into a condo for 2 weeks with my mom (or my ILs for that matter).  With my mom, it's only a matter of time before she hurts my feelings and stomps my hard-earned self-confidence.  So I have to be careful and limit contact.  When she says something harsh, I get off the phone immediately.  I don't hang up on her, but I calmly end the conversation by saying I must go for whatever reason.  It's retrained her a little bit, and given me a little bit of power.[/quote]

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