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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you close enough to your BIL to talk to him about it first? Or at the very least feel out what his relationship is like with that person who revealed the abuse to you?[/quote]
Good question. That mysterious "someone" might have made up the tale, for all we know. Who is she, OP?? And how well do you know her? Maybe she's a revengeful ex-girlfriend of his, but isn't telling you that part.[/quote]

Would you want your sister-in-law or brother-in-law to bring up something from your past that he or she had heard from a gossipy neighbor or acquaintance from school? Really???[/quote] This. What is your purpose besides dredging up old wounds? Do you want to one up your sister with a game if I know something you don't know, cause a rift in their marriage if he has put it behind him and chosen not to share or simply open old wounds in your bil? This is none of your business. Furthermore, it doesn't matter if it is your culture to share everything if it is not your brother-in-law's culture to share then  shut the fuck up. This is none of your business. [/quote]

I agree. What was the motivation of the woman who said this to you OP? Is this person a real friend or a gossip? I can't imagine a real friend who genuinely cared about BIL would use this story of abuse as a way to chat you up. [/quote]

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