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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would mention it to my sister. But OP, your sister probably knows already.

+1 If you two are as close as you say you are, your sister might feel relieved to finally be able to discuss it with you.

+2 If it was my husband and my in-laws, I'd want to know.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would mention it to my sister. But OP, your sister probably knows already.

+1 If you two are as close as you say you are, your sister might feel relieved to finally be able to discuss it with you.

+2 If it was my husband and my in-laws, I'd want to know.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would mention it to my sister. But OP, your sister probably knows already.

+1 If you two are as close as you say you are, your sister might feel relieved to finally be able to discuss it with you.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, as I said, I will tell her.
Sister is not the type to go running up to him and blasting it out. She might slowing approach it, or bring up other things about the FIL first.
She's not dumb.
Anyway, different strokes, I am happy that I have a sister that I can talk to.

You are entirely missing the point and actually seem quite smug about it. You are one piece of work, lady.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, the purpose is simply for information. I come from a culture where people talk, and support each other, and aren't afraid of family and so on. There is no way that I would not tell her. I have never kept anything form her, and now is not the time to start.
That woman did not betray anyone, she just said it as it was. If they wanted no one else to know they were beating their kids, they should have lived in some mountain cabin. Tough --- for his father, the cat is out of the bag.

So tell your BIL you know, and tell him you and your sister talk about everything, so you won't keep it from her because if she found out later that you knew, she'd feel betrayed. Give him the opportunity to tell his wife first.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, as I said, I will tell her.
Sister is not the type to go running up to him and blasting it out. She might slowing approach it, or bring up other things about the FIL first.
She's not dumb.
Anyway, different strokes, I am happy that I have a sister that I can talk to.

I'm happy I have two sisters that I love dearly and can talk to as well, but we don't try to hurt each other by sharing info and gossip that may not be true. You seem to take particular joy in what you're doing.

Anonymous wrote:OP here, as I said, I will tell her.
Sister is not the type to go running up to him and blasting it out. She might slowing approach it, or bring up other things about the FIL first.
She's not dumb.
Anyway, different strokes, I am happy that I have a sister that I can talk to.

Anonymous wrote:OP here, as I said, I will tell her.
Sister is not the type to go running up to him and blasting it out. She might slowing approach it, or bring up other things about the FIL first.
She's not dumb.
Anyway, different strokes, I am happy that I have a sister that I can talk to.

Anonymous wrote:OP here, as I said, I will tell her.
Sister is not the type to go running up to him and blasting it out. She might slowing approach it, or bring up other things about the FIL first.
She's not dumb.
Anyway, different strokes, I am happy that I have a sister that I can talk to.

Anonymous wrote:OP here, the purpose is simply for information. I come from a culture where people talk, and support each other, and aren't afraid of family and so on. There is no way that I would not tell her. I have never kept anything form her, and now is not the time to start.
That woman did not betray anyone, she just said it as it was. If they wanted no one else to know they were beating their kids, they should have lived in some mountain cabin. Tough --- for his father, the cat is out of the bag.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you close enough to your BIL to talk to him about it first? Or at the very least feel out what his relationship is like with that person who revealed the abuse to you?

Good question. That mysterious "someone" might have made up the tale, for all we know. Who is she, OP?? And how well do you know her? Maybe she's a revengeful ex-girlfriend of his, but isn't telling you that part.

Would you want your sister-in-law or brother-in-law to bring up something from your past that he or she had heard from a gossipy neighbor or acquaintance from school? Really???

This. What is your purpose besides dredging up old wounds? Do you want to one up your sister with a game if I know something you don't know, cause a rift in their marriage if he has put it behind him and chosen not to share or simply open old wounds in your bil? This is none of your business. Furthermore, it doesn't matter if it is your culture to share everything if it is not your brother-in-law's culture to share then shut the fuck up. This is none of your business.