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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am not married, but getting married in a year. How do you not know that you two are so different before marriage?[/quote]

It's not that you don't know. You know.[b] You just can't realize how those differences can create rifts as you get older and have been together longer.[/b] Kids also throw a huge wrench into things because everyone approaches that differently and it can really cause conflict in a marriage. You would do best to read and take to heart what you read here and not pretend you've got it all figured out when you aren't married yet. You will be amazed how different your relationship will be even 5 years into marriage once so many other factors come into play. [/quote]

This.[/quote]

This is such a profound observation.[/quote]

+1000

First, I don't regret my divorce at all, I'm still glad.  I was young and foolish and had no appreciation for the way certain things would chafe..indeed, I very very stupidly thought these were things that could change (yes, I was a naive young idiot)...well, they did change...slightly for the worse.  The insecurities that led to controlling jealous behavior and deeply crippled sexuality only got worse and worse...in a kind of feedback loop.

I too call BS on the 50% statistic...that may be true only if you consider that in every divorce, one spouse doesn't want the divorce and therefore regrets it.  I think the 20% reconciliation is completely made up.  That PP hasn't come back to offer a citation for where they got that statistic, only to make gloom-and-doom predictions about life as a divorced person and the afterlife.

My 2nd marriage is fantastic by comparison - mostly because I'm older, more mature, have some experience and went in with completely realistic expectations of my partner.  It is better in every single way.[/quote]

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